Young gay men can sometimes feel bad about themselves because of the media, school or their parents and friends. They may also find it difficult to accept their sexuality, especially if other people have a problem with it. If this happens to you, it is important to make sure you have enough support to get through the difficult times.

If you go to a gay youth group you could talk to a worker about any problems you are having. Talking to other young gay people can also help. See the Coming Out section for more advice on getting support.

It is important to look after your emotional and physical wellbeing. This means recognising when you need help and asking for support. Assertiveness plays a big role in emotional wellbeing and learning to say "no" to unreasonable requests can often give you more time to focus on looking after yourself.

Looking after your physical wellbeing can mean things like eating well and having enough exercise and sleep. If you want to make changes take things one step at a time. Try setting yourself goals – if you want to improve your diet or increase how much exercise you take, make gradual changes so you can monitor your progress.

Young gay men don't always have a lot of role models in society. There are a few out there but it is important to remember to be yourself. Don't feel pressurised to dress in a certain way or act like others.

It can be easy to focus on the negatives, but the glass need not always be half empty. Try to spend time each day thinking about what you are grateful for and what makes you happy. This will help to increase your self esteem and enhance your wellbeing.

This article was last reviewed on: 27/10/11
Date due for next review: 27/10/13