Young gay men are often made to feel bad about themselves by a range of different sources - education, the media, parents, friends etc, so it is important to realise that it is up to you to make sure that you have enough support to get through these times.

Be realistic - if you feel that you need to make changes; just take it one step at a time. You may have a whole list of changes that you can make. These can range from eating healthier to spending more time with your friends. Learn to prioritise - if you try and do everything all at once you will wear yourself out and may end up feeling worse.

Assertiveness plays a huge role in well being. Just learning to say "no" to unreasonable requests can often give you more time to yourself so you can focus on looking after yourself and in turn those around you.

Being assertive and looking after yourself is not always easy, just be real about what you can achieve. Maybe you think people around you won't react well to the changes you are making - it is vital that you shut out their negativity. If you are happy with what you are doing then carry on and it will become easier with time.

Young gay men don't have a lot of role models in society. There are a few out there but it is important to remember to just be yourself. Don't feel pressured to dress a certain way or act like others. Strive to be the best you can be for yourself.

You may find it difficult accepting your sexuality or you may find that others have a problem with it. Things won't always be easy. You may feel wounded, you'll make mistakes - try to learn from the bad times. This will help you in the future.

It can be far too easy to focus on the negative but the glass need not always be half empty. Try and spend time each day thinking about what you have, what you are grateful for, what makes you happy. Just thinking in this way will raise your self esteem and help to change your outlook.