Relationships

Relationships are a key issue for lesbian, gay and bisexual young people and getting peer support can often be the most important factor when using services.

It is important for workers to build open and transparent relationships with LGB young people who will see them as role models and mentors - something unique to this area of work. Due to the relationships formed by workers and LGB young people (often spanning several years) it is important for all workers to be aware of guidelines around professional boundaries. It is a good idea to develop these with LGB young people and highlight them whenever a client accesses any services. (See appendix E for further information).

Sexual relationships between LGB young people are inevitable and should be allowed to develop if appropriate, though it should be clear that this is not the primary function of any service. Open and honest discussion amongst staff and service users about sexual relationships between clients should be encouraged as part of any programme. Workers should discuss their roles and thoughts before they engage in this work.

Many LGB young people have not had the chance to explore issues around sex and relationships in the same way as their heterosexual peers. Experienced workers need to allow time for discussion and personal development around these issues, in a safe and facilitated environment.

Families

LGB young people often say  family relationships can create great anxiety and emotion regarding their sexuality.

Often LGB young people will begin living a ‘double life’ and either suppress their sexuality or hide it from their families. This can cause immense stress and pressure if LGB young people adopt heterosexual roles.

For the majority of LGB young people coming out to family is cited as the most difficult part of the coming out process. Hearing about other young people’s experiences of this process will enable LGB young people to choose the right time to come out to their family. Providing information that represents families’ ethnic, cultural and faith backgrounds is also needed for LGB young people.

Services should also provide information to parents or carers of LGB young people and make referrals to supporting agencies if appropriate, as a way of supporting the client.

All workers should be clear that their work is confidential and is not discussed with parents or carers unless the young person consents to this.

This article was last reviewed on: 27/10/11
Date due for next review: 27/10/13