First times

The first time you have sex is an important time in your life so it's best to make sure it feels right and that you really want to have sex.

You may or may not be thinking about having sex. It is perfectly natural when you are coming to terms with your sexuality to think about sex. You might be thinking that everyone around you is having sex, which is often not the case. You will know when the time is right for you to have sex.

You will probably have heard quite a few things about what gay men do in bed together. It's important to remember that sex can be whatever you want it to be, from masturbating with another man to kissing, massage, hugging, oral sex, anal sex or anything else that appeals - as long as you both want to do it. It is a regular assumption that the only thing two men can do in bed is have anal sex. This is not the case.

It's a big decision to have sex for the first time. It is perfectly natural to be nervous, Just take your time and talk to your partner about what you want and don't want. Talking about sex before you have it makes it easier. It is also important to talk about safer sex. Do not rely on your partner to have a condom and lube, always carry some with you.

Anal sex carries the greatest risk of contracting HIV if you do not use a condom. Also the more men you have sex with, the more likely it is that you will come into contact with HIV.

Safer sex does not equal boring sex. It is something that you need to negotiate with your partner. Make sure that you are doing what you want to do and the sex will always be better.

Last review: 27/10/11
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